Sista's in Spirit

It’s Time to Reintroduce Yourself,  Boundaries Are the New Self-Love

There comes a time in every woman’s life when she must pull the curtains back, take a long look in the mirror and whisper to herself,  “No more.” No more over-giving. No more over-explaining. No more stretching yourself paper-thin for people who wouldn’t break a sweat for you. That moment — when you reclaim your power — is what Mary J. Blige is serving in this post. It's not anger, it's alignment. It's not bitterness, it's boundaries. And it’s long overdue.

For too long, we as women — especially Black women — have been conditioned to dim our light; smooth our edges and smile through discomfort to make others feel safe, even at our own expense. We’ve been told that setting boundaries is “selfish,” that saying no means you’re difficult and that standing firm means you’re “too much.” But let’s…

7 Signs You’re Stepping Into Inner Peace (And May Not Even Realise It Yet)

When life feels like a storm, peace can seem like a luxury. But inner peace isn’t about perfect conditions—it’s about finding stillness within, even as the world continues to move. Often, we don’t realise we’re healing because it doesn’t look like joy or clarity. Sometimes, it looks like rest, solitude or simply choosing not to argue.

Healing and peace start with awareness. Every time you pause before reacting or choose your well-being over people-pleasing, your brain begins to rewire itself. It’s not just emotional work—neuroscience backs it. Peace becomes a practice, not a moment.

Here are 7 signs that you might already be stepping into peace—even if you haven’t fully…

If YOU don’t take care of YOU, how can you truly build, grow and thrive?

Sis, let’s have some real talk. You want to grow your business, elevate your career and maintain meaningful relationships—but if YOU are running on empty, how can you pour into anyone or anything else?

Think about it. You can have the best business strategy, the most well-crafted resume or the strongest network, but if you’re mentally, emotionally or physically drained, you won’t have the capacity to fully show up and execute.

How can you lead a team when you’re exhausted?

How can you build meaningful partnerships when you’re constantly pouring into others but not replenishing yourself?

Rewiring Your Mindset: Time to Heal, Focus & Do!

Think about that for a moment. Who are you? Not your job title. Not the roles you play for others. Not the labels the world has placed on you. But YOU—beyond the expectations, beyond the doubts, beyond the fears.

If your answer comes with hesitation, if it’s clouded by old wounds or limiting beliefs, it’s time to take back control. Because here’s the truth: You are NOT your past. You are NOT your mistakes. You are NOT the fears that whisper “you can’t.” You are so much more than the outdated stories you’ve been telling yourself.

In Who Am I? by Suzanne Simmons Lewis, she reminds us that self-identity is shaped by deep-rooted experiences, but it is NOT set in stone. Every belief you hold about yourself—good or bad—was learned. And if it was learned, it can be unlearned. If it was created, it can be rewritten.

It’s Time to Choose YOU First

In the words of Maya Angelou, “I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” How often do we, as women, put ourselves at the bottom of the list, carrying the weight of everyone else’s needs and forgetting that we, too, need care, rest and love?

Let me remind you today—rest is not a luxury. Rest is your birth right. It’s not something you need to "earn" or justify. It’s as essential as breathing, as vital as the work you do for others. Because without rest, how can you continue to give the best of yourself to the world?

Stillness is power. Choosing to pause, to embrace quiet and to listen to your heart isn’t selfish—it’s revolutionary. It’s saying to the world, “I matter too.” We have been conditioned to believe that taking time for ourselves is indulgent, even…