What They Never Told Me About Ordinary Moments That Change Everything
When it comes to starting a business, going after the next promotion or taking a new direction in your personal life, many of us are taught to wait for the lightning strike, a dramatic phone call, a headline offer, a perfect plan. We stall, believing that a breakthrough needs a grand announcement. But life rarely delivers opportunity with a brass band. It is quieter than that.
The truth is, the moments that reroute a life usually arrive dressed in everyday clothes. They slip in while we are checking email, sharing a casual hello or saying yes to something that feels too small to matter. Waiting for perfection or outside validation only creates pressure and keeps us from noticing what’s already in reach.
Looking back, I can see that the turning points in my own journey never announced themselves. They whispered. If I had been scanning the horizon for something grand, I would have missed them entirely.
Here are five truths I have learned about these ordinary moments and why they often hold the power to change everything, especially for women ready to rise:
1. They Hide in Plain Sight
The conversation in a hallway, the side project you almost declined, the stranger you meet in line, these are the places where destiny waits, unnoticed. If I had followed traditional pathways, I would never have set up the network and had all these amazing moments. Just because others could not visualise it did not mean it was not real.
2. They Look Like Work, Not Wonder
Opportunity often feels like effort. The unglamorous assignment or extra responsibility can be the very bridge to your next chapter. No one sees the sleepless nights, the pain of travelling on public transport in high heels, the untold chicken at award dinners or the lack of imagination from those who stay “stuck” and do not realise how their energy limits them and drains the energy from us.
3. They Test Your Curiosity
The moments that change everything rarely come with a flashing sign, they hide inside small hunches and passing thoughts. Only those willing to ask one more question or follow a seemingly random tug on their attention catch the thread others overlook.
Some of my biggest “ah-ha” insights arrived from the quiet observer in the room who was not showboating, just listening and waiting for the right time to speak. Other times it was as simple as a book I stumbled across on a dusty shelf or an unexpected conversation with a stranger on the bus. Each encounter, no matter how ordinary, turned out to matter more than I first imagined.
4. They Reward Action Over Perfection
Acting before you feel fully ready is a quiet superpower. Waiting for the “perfect” moment is how doors close unnoticed. I have lost count of how many times I trusted my gut to launch something new in the Network and no, I was not showered with thanks or praise. Guard your ideas, Sistas, dressed in polished suits and polite smiles, some will try to take without giving.
Trust your inner spirit and lead with your authentic instinct. Not everyone is meant to walk with you and when you lean on your own wisdom you break free from the fake narratives and imaginary perfection that can paralyze your dreams.
5. They Reveal What You Already Have
Your true open doors are the skills, relationships and inner resilience you already carry. Ordinary moments simply shine a light on them. Be willing to step through doors that do not look familiar. They often hold the greatest blessings and pull you closer to your dreams. I have learned that the very attributes that fuel our success are often the ones others envy.
I cannot count the times I have been told I am too focused, too exacting, too direct, until I lowered my standards to match their comfort. Never dim your light to make someone else feel at ease. I learned, sometimes painfully, that honouring your own brilliance is the only way forward.
Your Light Leads the Way
There is a radiance inside you that no one else can replicate. Neuroscience tells us that every thought and emotion sends a surge of electrical energy through the brain, carving new neural pathways.
When you honour your own light, your unique blend of gifts, values and intuition, you literally rewire your mind for possibility. What we repeatedly focus on strengthens in the brain, which means that choosing to believe in your own brilliance is not wishful thinking, it is a biological strategy for success.
Yet the world often whispers a different story. Perhaps you have been told you are “too much”, too focused, too ambitious, too intense. Those words are meant to shrink you, to keep your prefrontal cortex busy with self-doubt instead of creative vision. NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) offers a powerful reframe.
Every time you notice that limiting language, pause and replace it with a question that opens the door wider. What if my intensity is my superpower? What if my focus is the very key that unlocks my next opportunity? With each new, empowering thought, you are programming your brain to expect expansion instead of limitation.
Oprah once said, “Your real job in life is to figure out as soon as possible who you are meant to be and begin to honour that in the best way possible.” Your light is that inner knowing, your personal North Star, guiding you toward the doors that align with your highest vision. It does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet whisper. But it never disappears, no matter how loud the world becomes.
Remember, no one has to change for you to win. Your path is uniquely yours and the brilliance you carry isn’t dependent on anyone else’s approval or pace. You are already doing things that many will never dare to think about, let alone attempt. That is the beauty of your journey, it is forged by courage, not comparison.
So stay in the extra, extra, extraordinary lane. Trust the compass of your own spirit and press the accelerator. Your light isn’t just a glow; it is a force of movement, pulling you toward the life only you can create.
Today, give yourself permission to stand fully in your brilliance. Take a quiet moment, breathe deeply and feel where that light lives in your body, heart, gut, or mind. Let it guide the next step, whether it is a courageous conversation, a bold proposal, or simply saying yes to the nudge hat is been calling you.
Do not dim your glow to soothe someone else’s discomfort. Your light matters and it is the signal that you’re ready for the extraordinary. Trust it. Walk through the door it illuminates. Your highest vision is waiting and it already recognises you.
If this message speaks to the light you carry, keep the energy flowing. Like this post if you’re ready to stay in your own extraordinary lane, comment with one way you’re honouring your unique brilliance today, and share it with a sister who needs the reminder that no one has to change for her to win.
