Red Flags
What a Narcissist Will Never Do And How You Reclaim Your Power
Notice how narcissists never ask about your feelings, never apologise, never cherish your accomplishments and definitely never make an effort just for you?
These aren’t slips, they’re strategic omissions. Psychology Today confirms that traits like lack of empathy, entitlement, manipulation and refusal to take responsibility are classic narcissist red flags .Their avoidance of real connection isn’t by mistake it’s by design.
Your Narcissist Awareness Checklist
Use this checklist to identify the core patterns and when you spot them, take action:
They never ask about your challenges or emotions.
They show no genuine interest in how you feel.
They refuse to say “I’m sorry” or admit they were wrong.
They never appreciate your efforts or achievements.
They dismiss your friends as unimportant or inconvenient.
They never build you up only tear you down.
They sidestep responsibility and shift blame.
They don’t do things simply out of love for you.
Their “love” never matches the devotion you give.
They ruin meaningful moments your birthdays, your milestones.
If several boxes are checked, you’ve identified a pattern of emotional withholding and control. That’s the first step to freeing yourself from the emotional fog.
Exercises to Reclaim Direction, Purpose & Self-Worth
1. Affirmation-Based Identity Audit
Each day, affirm five truths about yourself your strengths, passions and values. Build a “You” identity that's independent of others’ opinions.
2. Boundary Blueprint
Choose one recurring disrespect. Maybe they dismiss your feelings or step on your priorities. Plan a simple response “I noticed that... I deserve respect” then practice delivering it calmly.
3. Purpose-Powered Calendar
Replace moments wasted on them with purposeful action. Allocate time to a passion project aligned with your values. Show up for you, consistently, even in small ways.
4. Emotional Accounting
Keep a log of interactions that hurt vs moments you honoured yourself. Add reflections How did I feel when I honoured my boundary? This builds evidence of your growing inner strength.
5. Community & Accountability
Reveal your plan to a trusted friend or support group and ask them to check in. External reinforcement helps anchor your newfound dignity.
Now Is The Time
You don’t just need to leave you deserve to rise.
When you stop accepting emotional withholding and set your eyes on what truly matters, the narcissist loses their script. They can’t control what you build inside. Your purpose, your passions, your priorities.
Your future self that woman with a clear vision, a heart aligned with her values is waiting.
By building routines around self-worth, planning intentional boundaries and anchoring to your true goals, you no longer fit into their narrative. You’ve changed the story.
Take one step today whether it's an affirmation, a boundary statement, or scheduling time for your passion. Share your first move below. Let’s rise, together, with dignity, purpose and unstoppable grace.
