FROM SURVIVING TO RECLAIMING

The Shift That Changes Everything

Living with the effects of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS) is like walking through life with your nervous system on high alert.

• You’re not just feeling angry, your amygdala is firing constantly, scanning for threats that may never come.

• You’re not just tired,  you’re in a cycle of adrenal fatigue, emotional dys-regulation and fragmented sleep.

When Public Praise Hides Private Pain

Let’s be clear, narcissists don’t always come with warning labels. In fact, in public, they often shine like stars. Overly agreeable, always the “perfect” partner, the life of the party, charming, witty and oh-so-lovable.

But behind closed doors? That charm curdles fast.

Public Persona

• Over-agreeing to win you over

Red Flags

What a Narcissist Will Never Do   And How You Reclaim Your Power

Notice how narcissists never ask about your feelings, never apologise, never cherish your accomplishments and definitely never make an effort just for you?

These aren’t slips, they’re strategic omissions. Psychology Today confirms that traits like lack of empathy, entitlement, manipulation and refusal to take responsibility are classic narcissist red flags .Their avoidance of real connection isn’t by mistake it’s by design.

Your Narcissist Awareness Checklist

Narcissistic Manager Wanted!

• Are you the type who thrives on control, admiration and strategic manipulation?

• Do you excel at presenting a polished public persona while calling the shots behind the scenes?

• If the thought of ruling with an iron fist while weaving just enough charm to keep your underlings hooked makes your heart race

….. then this position is tailor-made for you.

Why Narcissists Cannot Take Criticism?

It’s because they construct a fragile “false self” that must appear special, superior and flawless.

Every compliment and every validation is like fuel to a fire, that’s their narcissistic supply. But the moment someone questions them, points out a mistake or offers honest feedback, their world threatens to collapse.

Criticism isn’t just hurtful, it’s a “narcissistic injury” and when their fragile façade cracks, they often erupt into rage, invalidation or deflection, sometimes even becoming hostile, all to protect their carefully curated image.

Criticism cuts deep because it challenges the core lie they’re living that they’re perfect. If anything interferes with that narrative, no matter how small, they go into self-defence. They’ll ignore you, gaslight you, call you names or even invert the conversation so you’re the one on trial. This reaction stems not from logic, but from deep insecurity and wounded pride.

Break the Bond Before It Breaks You!

Stepping out from the shadows of trauma bonding is a journey of reclaiming your freedom and you don’t have to walk it alone.

Trauma bonds form when abusers cycle between cruel punishment and emotional reward, creating a dangerous pull that convinces you your happiness hinges on pleasing them.  This ongoing  toxic rollercoaster, alternating highs and lows, rewards and punishments, leaves you emotionally tethered, craving their approval even when it hurts.

Narcissists are particularly adept at weaving these bonds. Their cycles of charm followed by control foster an intense, one-sided dependency rooted in power imbalance It’s what psychologists call intermittent reinforcement, where unpredictable affection makes every kind gesture feel like salvation, deepening your emotional entanglement .

Let’s Talk Love Bombing 1.0  

Love Bombing 1.0 is  a quick fire post on the confusing charm offensive that too many of us have mistaken for “true love.” Imagine this,  you meet someone and suddenly it’s fireworks, front-row seats to their affection, 24/7 texting, surprise flowers and an engagement ring by week three.

Sounds like a fairy tale? Think again. This is less Disney, more psychological chess match.

Love bombing is not about love, it’s about control wrapped in compliments. This early phase of narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationships is designed to get you hooked fast. We’re talking about intense flattery (“I’ve never met anyone like you”), extravagant gifts, rushed future talk and constant contact, all carefully crafted to make you feel chosen… before they slowly chip away at your sense of reality.

But here’s the kicker, this isn’t always done with malice. People with trauma histories, ADHD, or anxious attachment may…

When Obsession Looks Like Love: Honouring Naso and Every Woman Fighting to Break Free

“As you begin to detach from a narcissist, you realise, it wasn’t them that made the connection feel so intense. It was your obsession that made them seem so special.” - Sri Kaiser

This quote hits hard because for many women, the moment of clarity comes not in the middle of the relationship, but at the breaking point, when love has long since curdled into control.

Keotshepile Naso Isaacs, known to friends and family simply as Naso, was a woman with dreams. A mother of three, she had just arrived in the UK from Otse, a village in south-east Botswana. She came here to rebuild, to give her sons a safer, stronger future. Her smile radiated warmth, her devotion to her boys was undeniable and those who knew her called her “a beautiful soul.”

Breaking Free from the Narcissist’s Love Trap: The Case of Kyle Clifford

At first, a narcissist’s love feels like intoxicating passion—deep, all-consuming, and seemingly perfect. But like any addiction, the initial high fades, revealing a cycle of control, emotional withdrawal and devastation. The tragic case of Kyle Clifford, the UK crossbow killer, is a chilling reminder of what happens when narcissistic tendencies escalate into dangerous obsession. Clifford brutally murdered his ex-girlfriend, Louise Hunt, her mother Carol, and her sister Hannah in their home after she ended the relationship. His actions reflect the dark reality of narcissistic rage, where a loss of control can lead to deadly consequences.

Kyle Clifford’s case highlights the severe risks associated with narcissistic attachment, entitlement and violent possessiveness. After the breakup, Clifford was unable to accept that…