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Do You Run on Motivation or Standards?

Most men say they need more motivation.

Wrong focus.

SENT ON HEALF OF THE BLACK MEN’S CONSORTIUM®️

🛑In last night’s session we discussed how strict, ruthless and playful I was when working with the group members?

🛑 How do you manage your thoughts and feelings (and not get overwhelmed and stressed) and stay focused and calm when things around you get chaotic? What’s a stake during this process?

🛑 How does one take care of oneself and ensure that collaboration and support is the goal rather than only focusing on self?

🛑 How might an activity like this help to improve your mental health and wellbeing?

The Quiet Crisis Facing Men.

There is a quiet shift happening beneath the surface of modern masculinity. It is not loud. It does not trend. But it is measurable, deadly and growing. Men are becoming more isolated, less connected and more likely to die by suicide and the data tells us this is not about weakness, but about systems, culture and silence colliding at the wrong moment.

This is not a story about individual failure. It is a story about patterns.

The Loneliness Gap Men Are Not Talking About

UK evidence shows that loneliness did not recede after lockdowns ended; it settled. The most recent Community Life Survey and Office for National Statistics data indicate that around 6–7 per cent of adults now feel lonely often or always, with nearly one in four experiencing loneliness at least some of the time.

What’s in the News About Black Men:

5 Big Issues.

Over the past few months, headlines and policy debates have zeroed in on the challenges and opportunities facing Black men.

From health disparities to economic inclusion, these conversations are shaping legislation, community programmes and cultural narratives.

Here is what’s trending and what we can do about it.

International Men’s Day:

Why This Conversation Matters For BrothaTalk

International Men’s Day (19 November) is a global call to look honestly at the lives of men and boys, their health, their relationships, their contribution and their pain.

What is International Men’s Day for?

International Men’s Day was relaunched in 1999 in Trinidad and Tobago by Dr Jerome Teelucksingh, who chose 19 November to honour his father and to celebrate a moment when sport united the country across race and class.

From Statistics to Survival

The Unseen Crisis of Health

There is a quiet crisis unfolding in the health of Black men. According to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), Black men in America have the lowest life expectancy of any demographic group, nearly five years shorter than white men.

Beyond September

Five Realities We Cannot Ignore About Suicide

How many of us, just this year, have known someone who has taken their own life or felt the tremor when a friend of a friend suddenly is not here anymore?

You Don’t Need Everything to Be Perfect to Feel Worthy

Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that our value is measured by our output. That worth only comes once we’ve “made it.” A promotion, a flawless bank account, a home that looks like a magazine spread. But the truth is, this belief is quietly stealing our wellbeing. Perfection is a moving target and chasing it often leaves us exhausted, disconnected and questioning ourselves.

In conversations with brothers from every walk of life; entrepreneurs, professionals, artists, fathers, there is a pattern. It’s not the work itself that breaks us. It’s the relentless, unspoken rules they’ve adopted about what it means to “deserve” peace or pride. These rules aren’t written anywhere, but they’re etched into habits and self-talk.

Here are five perfection-driven traps that quietly sabotage your mental health and create cycles of stress and anxiety:

1. Measuring worth only by achievement:…

When Men Cry.

The Hidden Cost of Emotional Silence!

 “Men cry. Men struggle” but saying it and living it are two very different things, especially for Black men.

For generations, masculinity has been policed by silence. Men are taught that tears are weakness, breakdowns are failure and vulnerability is something to be feared. Yet the research tells another story.

According to a CDC report, suicide rates among Black men aged 15–24 increased by 47% between 2013 and 2019. And Dr. Wizdom Powell, a leading health disparities researcher and clinical psychologist, warns that “emotional stoicism among Black men is literally killing us.”

REWRITING THE RULES OF STRENGTH

In every corner of culture, men have been told a silent lie, that to feel is to falter. That to struggle is to fail. That to speak up is to show weakness. But here’s what the research and real life tell us, what’s unspoken is often what hurts us most.

Stress doesn’t always look like breaking down.

• Sometimes, it looks like powering through.