CareerTalk

The Survival Illusion:

What We Normalise Shapes More Than We Realise.

There are moments when strength is not strength at all, but survival wearing a convincing mask. Behavioural science shows that the human brain adapts quickly to what is repeated, not to what is healthy. Over time, what begins as coping quietly becomes normal. This is where many women find themselves, functioning, achieving, holding everything together, while their bodies, boundaries and self-worth pay the price.

One of the most overlooked patterns is how unprocessed trauma quietly shapes our relationships and identity. Neuroscience tells us that the nervous system learns safety through familiarity. When emotional inconsistency, over-responsibility or manipulation is repeated, the brain stops questioning it. We begin to call endurance “resilience,” even as stress hormones remain elevated and self-trust erodes. This is not weakness, it is biology adapting to survive.

The same patterns show up powerfully in toxic workplaces and…

From Intention to Impact:

How Great Leaders Engineer Careers, Not Just Goals.

Most leaders are not failing because they lack ambition. They are failing because their goals are under-designed for the reality they operate in.

In complex organisations, fast-moving markets and pressure-heavy careers, how you set goals matters as much as what you set.

Research consistently shows that goal clarity, emotional commitment and structural follow-through are among the strongest predictors of leadership performance, not motivation alone.

A Salary Is a Drug:

7 Reasons Careers Can Quietly Steal Your Dreams (Especially for Women of Colour)

This image is uncomfortable because it tells a truth many professionals feel but struggle to articulate. A steady salary can soothe fear, stabilise survival and silence ambition, slowly, quietly and without drama.

For many women of colour, the issue is not a lack of aspiration. It is the cost of safety in systems that reward endurance more than evolution.

Why This Matters Now

The Skills That Quietly Separate Fast Movers From the Stuck!

Why career acceleration is less about talent and more about behavioural intelligence

Most careers do not stall because people lack ability. They stall because people rely on visible skills alone, technical competence, qualifications, output, while ignoring the invisible behaviours that actually shape progression.