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The 9 Toxic Manager Styles That Are Sabotaging Your Leadership Career

In the world of high-stakes leadership, one mega project stands as a cautionary tale of ambition gone awry. The UK’s HS2 high-speed rail initiative.

Plagued by ballooning costs (now exceeding £100 billion against initial estimates), repeated delays pushing operations beyond 2033, scope reductions, governance failures and "collective failures" in contracting and delivery, HS2 exemplifies how toxic management styles compound into systemic disaster.

Discover How Business and Corporate Mentoring Differ From Leadership Coaching.

Business and corporate mentoring differ from leadership coaching in several ways. Primarily, leadership coaching focuses on improving performance under the guidance of a qualified and experienced coach.

It is important to understand the difference between a mentor and a coach. A mentor is someone who shares their knowledge, skills and/or experience, to help another to develop and grow. A coach is someone who provides guidance to a client on their goals and helps them reach their full potential.

Here is a snapshot of the key differences between these approaches:

Goals:

Midlife Reckoning:

Reclaiming Career Power, Legacy and Well-Being in a Post-Pandemic World.

Many women, particularly in midlife, reach a profound stage of self-reflection.

Mentoring vs Coaching:

Which One Will Help Women Accelerate Career, Leadership and Legacy Breakthroughs?

As Black and women of colour navigate midlife career pivots, toxic environments, entrepreneurship or leadership advancement, both mentoring and coaching serve as powerful tools to accelerate success. However, they are distinct approaches that address different needs.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Visionary Women Leaders.

As senior female leaders, business owners and community advocates, the difference between your current impact and the greater legacy you are called to build often lies not in talent or effort alone, but in mindset, self-belief, emotional resilience, strategic habits and the intentional navigation of cultural and intergenerational realities.

This framework draws inspiration from Stephen Covey’s The '7 Habits of Highly Effective People,' adapting its proven principles into a lens specifically attuned to the experiences, strengths and responsibilities of visionary women, particularly Black and women of colour, who lead organisations, build enterprises and uplift communities while carrying multigenerational considerations.

Have You Ever Asked Yourself:

For many women, the answer is not a lack of talent, ambition or hard work, it is mindset.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 5 𝐇𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐞𝐧 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡-𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧.

𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐒𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐈𝐬 𝐒𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐈𝐭 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝.

There is a pattern emerging across workplaces that many organisations still do not want to confront.

The women holding teams together, driving performance, leading transformation and carrying organisational culture are often the very women operating under the greatest levels of invisible pressure.

Research from the Fawcett Society and Runnymede Trust found that 75% of women of colour have experienced racism at work, while TUC research continues to highlight higher levels of insecure work and workplace stress among Black and minority ethnic women.

Your Private World, Your Professional Space.

We often navigate professional spaces assuming our personal lives remain just that, personal.

But what happens when the lines blur?

Imagine sharing something intimate at home, only to hear it echoed back at work.

This is not a hypothetical scenario for many,  it is a lived reality. At NBWN, we believe in empowering you with knowledge and community and today, we are stepping into a conversation that touches upon deeply personal boundaries. Privacy at work.

𝗕𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗜𝘀 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗔𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗔𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗹𝗼𝗮𝗱. 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗜𝘁 𝗜𝘀 𝗔𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴.

Many Black, Asian and ethnically diverse professionals are not simply exhausted from working hard. They are exhausted from navigating environments where pressure is constant, expectations are higher, recognition is inconsistent and psychological safety does not always feel guaranteed.

Research continues to reinforce this reality.

Deloitte’s Women @ Work report found that women from ethnically diverse backgrounds report significantly higher levels of burnout and non-inclusive behaviours at work.

McKinsey’s Race in the Workplace study also highlighted that Black professionals are more likely to experience microaggressions, feel less supported by managers and face greater pressure to constantly prove competence.

Career Survival Now Depends on Up-Skilling.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗲𝗱. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗢𝘂𝘁𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗱.

𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘊𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘳 𝘚𝘶𝘳𝘷𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘭 𝘕𝘰𝘸 𝘋𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘜𝘱-𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘚𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘤 𝘝𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘜𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘕𝘦𝘸 𝘙𝘶𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘞𝘰𝘳𝘬

There was a time when many professionals believed loyalty, hard work and years of service would be enough. If you stayed committed, delivered consistently and avoided mistakes, progression was expected to follow. Experience was respected. Seniority carried influence. Job titles created identity.

That model is now under serious pressure.

The “3-Hour Mum” Is Not the Real Story.

Power, Privilege and Visibility Are.

When Emma Grede described herself as a “three-hour mum,” the internet reacted exactly as you would expect. Emma Grede is a British entrepreneur (co‑founder of SKIMS and Good American) went viral after saying she’s a:

Nine Types of People. Nine Neat Little Labels.

The same trait that gets a man called confident gets a woman called difficult. The same trait that gets a white woman called passionate gets a Black woman called aggressive.

This is not about personality. It is about who is allowed to lead and how.

Same behaviour. Different consequences.

For women, leadership is judged against contradictory expectations. For Black and women of colour, those expectations are filtered through bias, history and proximity to power.

𝗦𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗧𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗝𝗼𝗶𝗻:

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝟯𝟬 𝗠𝗶𝗻𝘂𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗕𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗚𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗻!

There is a moment in every business journey where effort is no longer the issue. Visibility is.

Right now, brands are being filtered, ranked and interpreted by AI and data long before a human conversation even begins.

Many founders are doing the work, showing up consistently, yet still being overlooked. Not because they lack capability, but because their positioning is not aligned with how decisions are being made today.

When “Switching Off” Starts Rewiring Your Edge

There is a growing conversation about digital noise, overstimulation and the need to retreat. That part is real. But there is also a line, one that is not always obvious, between intentional recovery and habits that quietly erode focus, clarity and professional edge.

What was shared in this thread points to something worth addressing directly.

In a world where attention is currency, how we choose to “switch off” matters more than we think.

Research from the American Psychological Association highlights that constant digital stimulation reduces cognitive capacity over time, impacting memory, focus and decision-making.

Leading with Vision, Velocity & Value:

Redefining Power for Female Founders

Leadership is not a title you wait for,  it is a skillset you master.

We are operating in a post-pandemic workplace that has fundamentally shifted. For the first time in over a decade, organisations are quietly rolling back their formal commitments to both gender and racial diversity.

DEI initiatives, once positioned as tools for equity, are increasingly being dismantled, de-prioritised or even weaponised against the very groups they were meant to support.

Have You Ever Accepted An Offer… and Instantly Knew It Was Too Low?

Have you ever sat in that moment?

Offer on the table and you should feel proud. Instead, something feels off.

You tell yourself it is a stepping stone. You will prove yourself. It will get better.

But it does not always work like that.

Unleash Your Career Potential

We have got something truly inspiring to share with you!

The past few years have truly been a moment of deep reflection, haven't they?

For so many of us, especially Black and women of colour, this period has encouraged us to pause and re-evaluate our career journeys. We have navigated unique challenges, often amplified by systemic inequalities, but within these experiences lies immense strength and the power to redefine what success looks like for you.

Are You Negotiating Your Salary or Absorbing a Systemic Gap?

There is a moment that determines more long-term wealth than most investment decisions. It happens in a meeting room, on a call or in the final paragraph of an offer letter.

A (salary) number is presented and too often, highly capable women accept it without testing its elasticity.

Globally, pay disparities remain persistent and measurable. In the United Kingdom, the Office for National Statistics reports that the gender pay gap among full-time employees remains around 7–8 per cent, widening to over 14 per cent when part-time work is included.

The gap increases significantly with age and seniority, particularly in finance, technology and executive roles where bonus differentials are pronounced. In financial and insurance activities, median hourly pay gaps have exceeded 20 per cent in recent reporting cycles. In the United States, the Bureau of Labour Statistics reports that women working…

3 Ways to Move Intentionally From Entry-Level to Executive, Instead of Simply Accumulating Years of Experience.

For leaders, founders and business owners, this is not a motivational question. It is a structural one.

Across the United Kingdom, progression is still uneven. Research from McKinsey & Company continues to show that the “broken rung” at first management promotion creates compounding disparity for women.

Analysis from the Runnymede Trust highlights slower career progression for Black professionals despite comparable or higher qualifications. Meanwhile, workforce insights from LinkedIn confirm that companies are increasingly prioritising adaptable skills, leadership agility and measurable impact over tenure alone.

Are You Building Fast Connections to Expand Your Professional Circle?

There is a pattern that repeats itself across sectors in the United Kingdom. The women who move forward with unusual speed are not always the loudest, nor even the most credentialed. They are the ones whose names circulate in rooms they are not physically in.

That circulation is not luck. It is network architecture.

Approximately 39 per cent of workers in the United Kingdom report securing roles through professional networks. More than 80 per cent of professionals believe networking is critical to career success. But statistics alone do not explain velocity. The deeper explanation lies in social capital theory.

Sociologist Mark Granovetter’s research on the “strength of weak ties” demonstrated that opportunities often travel through broader, looser networks rather than immediate circles. Later work on sponsorship and career capital confirmed that professional advancement depends not only on competence, but on…

Toxic Workplaces, Weaponised Resilience and the Quiet Exit of BAME Women

What if burnout is not about workload at all? What if it is about exposure, to bias, to vigilance, to invisible labour, to environments where psychological safety is unevenly distributed? When we ask that question, the experience of BAME women in toxic workplaces stops looking like an individual wellbeing issue and starts looking like a systemic failure hiding in plain sight.

For years, organisations have framed burnout as a personal weakness. Stress management courses proliferate. Mindfulness apps are subsidised. Resilience is praised, demanded and quietly weaponised. But when a specific group keeps burning out faster, earlier and more severely than others, the problem is no longer individual. It is structural.

Explore women’s leadership with Oxford, a new flexible online course

For many professionals, the timing or experience requirements of our Executive Education Programmes may not yet be the right fit, but that does not mean your leadership development needs to wait. 

We are pleased to introduce Women’s Leadership Foundations, a new, fully online short course from Oxford Saïd, now available on edX. 

Designed as a research-informed introduction, the course offers an accessible way to engage with Oxford thinking on women’s leadership. It provides space to reflect on how leadership develops over time and how it is shaped by experience, context and relationships, rather than presenting leadership as a fixed set of traits. 

What you will gain 

Planning Like a CEO:

Why High Performers Burn Out Without Strategic Control.

High performance is often framed as a badge of honour.

Five Quiet Rules That Decide Your Reputation at Work (Long Before Any Promotion Does)

Reputation is not built during performance reviews. It is built on ordinary days, in ordinary moments, when no one is scoring you and nothing is being announced. The people who are trusted, promoted and protected over time rarely feel louder than others. They feel steadier.

Research shows that 85% of job success comes from emotional intelligence, not technical skill, meaning the habits that signal trustworthiness, integrity and consistency matter more than the depth of your expertise alone (TalentSmart).

Studies by Gallup reveal that teams with high trust and psychological safety outperform others by up to 50% on key performance metrics. Motivational leaders like Simon Sinek and Brené Brown remind us that trust is a workplace currency more powerful than authority: Sinek emphasises that “leadership is not a rank, it is a choice based on behaviour, not title,” and Brown…

The Survival Illusion:

What We Normalise Shapes More Than We Realise.

There are moments when strength is not strength at all, but survival wearing a convincing mask. Behavioural science shows that the human brain adapts quickly to what is repeated, not to what is healthy. Over time, what begins as coping quietly becomes normal. This is where many women find themselves, functioning, achieving, holding everything together, while their bodies, boundaries and self-worth pay the price.

One of the most overlooked patterns is how unprocessed trauma quietly shapes our relationships and identity. Neuroscience tells us that the nervous system learns safety through familiarity. When emotional inconsistency, over-responsibility or manipulation is repeated, the brain stops questioning it. We begin to call endurance “resilience,” even as stress hormones remain elevated and self-trust erodes. This is not weakness, it is biology adapting to survive.

The same patterns show up powerfully in toxic workplaces and…

From Intention to Impact:

How Great Leaders Engineer Careers, Not Just Goals.

Most leaders are not failing because they lack ambition. They are failing because their goals are under-designed for the reality they operate in.

In complex organisations, fast-moving markets and pressure-heavy careers, how you set goals matters as much as what you set.

Research consistently shows that goal clarity, emotional commitment and structural follow-through are among the strongest predictors of leadership performance, not motivation alone.

A Salary Is a Drug:

7 Reasons Careers Can Quietly Steal Your Dreams (Especially for Women of Colour)

This image is uncomfortable because it tells a truth many professionals feel but struggle to articulate. A steady salary can soothe fear, stabilise survival and silence ambition, slowly, quietly and without drama.

For many women of colour, the issue is not a lack of aspiration. It is the cost of safety in systems that reward endurance more than evolution.

Why This Matters Now

The Skills That Quietly Separate Fast Movers From the Stuck!

Why career acceleration is less about talent and more about behavioural intelligence

Most careers do not stall because people lack ability. They stall because people rely on visible skills alone, technical competence, qualifications, output, while ignoring the invisible behaviours that actually shape progression.

When Being “the Boss” Masquerades as Leadership and Quietly Destroys Performance.

Most projects do not fail loudly. They unravel slowly, beneath the surface, while leaders reassure themselves that things are “under control.” Deadlines slip but are recovered. Tension rises but is rationalised. The strongest people stretch further and the weakest remain curiously protected.

From the outside, the organisation appears functional. From the inside, something more corrosive is happening. This is what it looks like when being “the boss” is mistaken for leadership.

In an era shaped by hybrid work, AI acceleration and relentless up-skilling, leadership is no longer judged by authourity alone. It is judged by whether the system you create allows people to think, grow, challenge and perform sustainably. When it does not, performance does not simply dip. Culture decays, capability stalls and talent disengages long before it leaves.

Authourity Is No Longer the Source of Credibility

Are Your Skills Still Going to Matter in Five Years?

The workplace is being re-engineered in real time. Artificial intelligence, data intelligence, automation and global economic pressure are not future trends, they are already reshaping who gets hired, who gets promoted and whose careers quietly stall.

The skills that make you valuable today are not guaranteed to protect your relevance tomorrow. Your ability to adapt, re-skill and reposition yourself is no longer optional. It is the defining factor in your long-term career security and growth.

The Reality of Today’s Workforce

 Nearly 39 percent of the core skills people use today are expected to change or become obsolete by 2030, according to major workforce studies.

When the Old Chapter Ends, the Real Strategy Begins.

Every year, over 60 percent of professionals say they feel stuck in their careers, yet fewer than 14 percent take structured action toward change.

Meanwhile, the Kauffman Foundation reports that nearly half of new businesses are launched by people over 40 and Black women are now the fastest-growing group of entrepreneurs in the United Kingdom and United States, according to the Global Entrepreneurship Monitor.

Women in Leadership 2025:

What the Trends Mean for Black and Minority Women and What Must Happen Next.

Something has shifted in leadership, but not in the way headlines suggest. Progress has not disappeared. It has slowed, narrowed and quietly changed direction and for Black and minority women, that change has been felt first and hardest.

The leadership story of 2025 is not one of collapse, but it is no longer one of momentum either. After nearly a decade of steady progress, the pace of advancement for women has slowed and in some cases quietly reversed. According to LinkedIn State of Women in Leadership 2025, gains that once felt inevitable have stalled over the past two years.

What is often missed in headline summaries is who feels this slowdown most sharply. Black and minority women, already navigating steeper structural barriers, are absorbing the greatest impact.

Working Harder Will Not Protect Your Career Anymore.

Thinking Differently Will.

Career longevity in today’s workplace is shaped less by effort and more by judgment. As AI, data-driven decision making, and shifting DEI priorities continue to redefine how value is assessed, women are navigating increased scrutiny alongside rising expectations. Experience alone is no longer enough to guarantee influence, security or progression.

The Generational Career Blueprint.

Every generation carries a psychological script shaped by its economy, technology, politics and trauma. These scripts do not simply influence attitudes, they quietly shape career choices, risk-taking, leadership styles and even what women believe is possible for them.

When you look at the workplace through a generational lens, you realise this is not just about age. It is about how each era was trained to survive.

Let’s look at why every era thinks differently and how it shapes careers, ambition and leadership for women today

The Hidden Advantage of Leadership:

Why Being Well-Spoken Changes Everything.

We often assume great leadership begins with strategy, but the real differentiator is far more understated. It starts with how a leader speaks, not in volume or authourity, but in precision, presence, and emotional awareness.

Communication is not a soft skill. It is a scaling skill.

Research from Harvard Business School shows that leaders who communicate clearly are trusted more, even when delivering difficult decisions.

When Your Nervous System Runs Your Career.

Most senior leaders believe their biggest obstacles are external organisational complexity, visibility, succession planning, politics at the top table. Yet, the real tipping point is seldom operational.

• It is internal.

• It happens in the nervous system long before it appears in performance data or executive perception.

The Seven Skills That Quietly Predict Who Rises.

There is a pattern that shows up in every workplace, from entry level to the boardroom.

It is not the people with the longest CVs who advance, but those who master a small cluster of transferable behaviours that compound over time.

Five Techniques to Dress for Success

When we dress well, we feel well.

The right outfit can elevate confidence, shift our energy and influence how we show up in every room. Yet putting together a successful outfit is not always as simple as it seems.

A successful outfit is more than matching pieces. It is a cohesive, refined look where every element blends with intention. It should compliment your shape, reflect your personality and help you feel polished, grounded and ready to lead.

This feature breaks down five techniques that help women create outfits that feel stylish, complete and aligned.

Building Your Power Circle:

How Female & Black Entrepreneurs Are Shaping the Future of Business!

Ladies, we know that building a business comes with its fair share of challenges, especially when it comes to closing the entrepreneurial gender gap. But here is the thing. We are paving the way for future generations of female entrepreneurs and we are doing it by building strong, supportive networks that lift us up and help our businesses thrive.

Here is how you can tap into your power circle and turn challenges into stepping stones:

1. Find Your Tribe 

What If the Key to Growth Is Not Working Harder, But Connecting Smarter?

We often think of networking as an event, a business card exchange, a handshake, a moment. But in reality, networking is a system. A living, breathing ecosystem that either supports your growth or quietly stalls it!

In an age where remote work is normalised, borders are digital and time is limited, we should be asking "Are we using online spaces to their full advantage?"

This month, I want to encourage you to explore what it truly means to build your 'Networking Circle' online. These aren’t just Zoom calls. They’re intentional containers for insight, accountability and real connection.

Here is what we have learned:

Today I stumbled across a reminder that felt almost too timely “Correct your mistakes before they become your habit.” 

It struck me because, in so many ways, my career has been shaped by trial and error.

I do not have a mentor guiding me and my manager is hardly the kind who invests in growth. The truth is, I have had to depend on self-help books, late-night journaling and my own resilience to push forward.

Still, I have come to see mistakes differently. They are not stop signs, but signals, pointing me toward habits that can either strengthen or sabotage my future. As I look ahead to promotion, I know my growth has to be intentional.

Every misstep I correct today is a seed planted for tomorrow’s leadership. Maybe that is the quiet advantage of walking this path alone. I’m learning discipline, self-trust and the courage to realign when I…

I believe that in every woman’s career journey, there comes a moment when ambition alone is no longer enough. You cannot simply depend on your manager or wait for sheer luck to hand you an opportunity.

What truly moves us forward is the combination of clarity, discipline, and focus and yes, sometimes with a bit of luck, a good mentor, a self-help book that speaks to you, and a renewed attitude that fuels you.

Why? Because success is rarely accidental. I’ve come to realise that success leaves clues.

Whether we like it or not, it’s the result of daily choices that, over time, transform not just our careers, but our lives.

That is why the idea in this post struck me so strongly. A new mindset really can start in one day. A new habit can take root in just 21 days. In 90 days, we can build skills that…

Showmanship or Showboating?

How LinkedIn Is Shaping Your Brand

Let’s get real.

LinkedIn used to be a digital CV. Now? It is a curated stage. A space where your presence, positioning and personal brand are all on display. But with so many voices competing for attention, a new question arises....

“Am I showcasing my career story… or just showboating?”

The Frequency of Change

Small Shifts, Big Vibrations

We often think of change as something monumental. New jobs, bold decisions, dramatic reinventions. But neuroscience suggests something subtler.

Transformation rarely arrives in seismic waves. It emerges from small, repeated habits that rewire the brain, shift the body and, if you believe Esther Hicks, even alter the energetic vibrations we send into the universe.

Hicks’ philosophy of the Law of Attraction argues that our emotions carry a frequency.

Why Women’s Voices Matter And Why We Must Protect Them

Studies consistently show that men interrupt women at least three times more often than women interrupt men, especially in mixed-gender conversations according to the Pew Research Centre. In fact, during a brief three‑minute exchange, men interrupted women approximately 2.1 times, compared to 1.8 times for men interrupting men Perhaps even more troubling: women are twice as likely as men to report being interrupted or spoken over, according to the 2024 McKinsey Women in the Workplace report.

These aren’t fleeting moments. They are microaggressions, small acts that accumulate, erode confidence and stifle career momentum. When women's ideas go unheard, when their contributions are muted under the din of dismissal, the result is a quiet form of erasure. Over time, even the most brilliant voices begin to doubt themselves, not due to a lack of insight, but because the room simply won’t…