Narcissistic Abuse Support Group

Madea’s Idiot’s Guide to Narcissists

Don’t Let ‘Em Play You, Baby

“Alright baby, let me break this down nice and simple, ‘cause these narcissists out here will have you thinking you the one that’s crazy. Uh-uh. Not today. Here’s the tea:”

See, a narcissist will walk in your life smiling like they bringing you blessings from heaven, when really they just brought chaos in a Gucci bag.

They will flip the script so many times you will be dizzy, wondering if you forgot the plot. That is their game. They get power not by being right, but by making you question yourself. Next thing you know, you apologisin’ for something they did!

The Empath & the Narcissist. When Feeling Too Much Becomes a Trap

Empaths are wired to feel. Narcissists are wired to be felt.

This imbalance is not accidental, it is the exact magnetic dynamic that often draws empaths into toxic relationships with narcissists. One seeks to heal, understand and love deeply. The other seeks validation, control and power, often at any cost.

Empaths are often deep feelers, peacekeepers, natural listeners, over thinkers, emotional or sponges. These traits, when unguarded, become weapons in the hands of someone who knows how to manipulate kindness into compliance.

If you saw yourself in that list, you’re not alone. Many survivors in this group have spent years feeling responsible for someone else’s moods, chaos or cruelty. You’ve cried when they hurt you and still worried about their feelings. You loved harder when they pulled away. You forgave things that shattered your spirit.

The Mask Never Slips – Until It Does

In the 1960s, a psychologist named Leon Festinger introduced the world to the theory of cognitive dissonance, the uncomfortable tension that arises when what we believe doesn't match what we do. Now imagine a life built entirely on contradiction. The narcissist's world is one of illusion—a constant act to preserve control, admiration and the fantasy of superiority. But there's a moment, often brief and terrifying to them, when the mask cracks.

That moment is what they fear more than anything: exposure!

Narcissists do not just lie to others; they lie to themselves. Neuroscience tells us…