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The Psychology of Flying Monkeys:

Why Every Abuser Has an Audience

There is a moment in every unhealthy relationship when the story stops being about two people and quietly becomes a crowd.

This is what psychologists call flying monkeys. Individuals who defend, enable or deliver messages on behalf of someone causing harm. What makes this dynamic so confusing is that it rarely begins with hostility.

When Love Requires You to Shrink:

Naming What Is Really Happening

 There are moments in relationships when something feels “off,” long before we have the language to name it.

You find yourself shrinking a little more each day, questioning your worth, second-guessing your abilities and wondering how someone who claims to care about you can make you feel so small.

The Stairway to Relationship Downfall

The Signs We Often Miss

Relationships rarely collapse in one dramatic moment. They unravel slowly, step by step, long before we recognise what is happening.

Social science tells us that the early warning signs are often subtle, consistent and easy to dismiss because they do not feel big enough to matter.

Yet those small data points matter.

The Con Artist Speaks from the Mouth, Not the Heart

The narcissist is not in love with you, they are in love with the game.

A performance.

A transaction.

A trick.