RelationshipTalk

Madea’s Idiot’s Guide to Narcissists

 “Alright baby, let me break this down nice and simple, ‘cause these narcissists out here will have you thinking you the one that’s crazy. Uh-uh. Not today. Here’s the tea:”

See, a narcissist will walk in your life smiling like they bringing you blessings from heaven, when really, they just brought chaos in a Gucci bag. They will flip the script so many times you will be dizzy, wondering if you forgot the plot. That is their game. They get power not by being right, but by making you question yourself. Next thing you know, you apologisin’ for something they did!

Do not let ‘em fool you, sugar. These folks ain’t got no cure, no fix-it kit and no “better version” waiting to come out if you just love them hard enough. Mm-mm. That’s like putting lipstick on a pig and wondering why it is still rolling…

The Quiet Power of Real Love When You Move Beyond the Illusion

This single quote feels like a whisper against the noise of modern relationships. Relationship transformation begins in the quiet, when we pause and see patterns others overlook.

The Forgotten Dream

Many of us enter relationships believing love will fix everything

When You Don’t Love Yourself, Love Hurts You More!

Many women unknowingly sabotage their happiness by settling for empty validation instead of real love. Research shows that low self-esteem in relationships often leads to insecurity, jealousy and poor partner choices because you end up believing you don’t deserve better.

When your worth relies on someone else, you stay silent, you shrink and you accept minimal affection as a treat. You might cling to unhealthy relationships hoping someone will “save” you and worse, stay in toxic dynamics that echo your own internal self-criticism.

This pattern creates a dangerous loop. A study shows women with low self-esteem doubt their partners’ love, downgrade positive moments and sense rejection, even when there’s none .

When Control Masquerades as Love, Know the Difference and Choose Peace

Never forget narcissists are emotionally and cognitively “trapped in the mind of a two‑year‑old,” unable to truly reason, negotiate, cooperate, love or empathize. Instead, their world is built on ultimatums, demands, greed, egocentrism, bullying, temper tantrums, silent treatments and a constant refrain of “I WANT” and “GIVE ME.”

This blunt, almost jarring comparison to a toddler helps illustrate the immaturity and emotional volatility you might experience when interacting with a narcissist. It's not that they’re children in age, but they often react with the simplicity and self‑centeredness of one, flipping into aggression or withdrawal the moment their needs or desires aren’t met.

If you've found yourself on the receiving end of tantrums, relentless demands or manipulative silence, know that these behaviours are no accident, they’re emotional tactics. By likening them to a young child’s limited emotional development, this message highlights the core issue, a narcissist’s inability…

When the Excitement Fades, Don’t Stay Stuck in Confusion

In the early stages of a relationship, it’s easy to get swept up in excitement, hope and even fantasy. But what happens when that initial spark fades and the truth starts showing itself in patterns of manipulation, gaslighting or control?

Many people hesitate at this point,  stuck between doubt and denial, wondering if they’re “overreacting” or waiting for things to magically fix themselves.

The reality is, when unhealthy behaviours emerge, hesitation becomes your greatest risk.

Neuroscience tells us that repeated exposure to manipulative or abusive dynamics literally rewires your brain’s fear and trust centers. You begin to question your memory, minimise your experiences and fall into emotional paralysis.

RED FLAG WARNING: WHEN PUBLIC PRAISE HIDES PRIVATE PAIN

Let’s be clear, narcissists don’t always come with warning labels. In fact, in public, they often shine like stars. Overly agreeable, always the “perfect” partner, the life of the party, charming, witty and oh-so-lovable.

But behind closed doors? That charm curdles fast.

Public Persona

• Over-agreeing to win you over

Stop Doubting Yourself. You Are the Purest Love You’ll Ever Know. 

In relationships, romantic or otherwise, many of us were taught to earn love through force, performance or control. But what if the greatest shift you could make wasn’t about what you do… but what you allow?

You are not here to shrink. You are not here to mould yourself into someone else’s comfort or idea of love. You came forth into this life to remember who you truly are, a divine, sovereign, radiant being of light. You are the one you’ve been waiting for. And in this moment, as you read these words, you are already activating new levels of consciousness, beyond fear, beyond limitation, beyond control. You are not broken. You do not need fixing.

You need only remember.

• Choose your happiness over people-pleasing…

 Are You Having A Relationship Awakening?

Let me remind you of something deep and sacred today, your past, every broken piece of it, every tear you shed, every wrong turn you took in love was not in vain. It was the cocoon. It was the space where you were breaking, yes, but also being broken open… so you could fly.

You see, the butterfly does not look back at the caterpillar with regret. It does not say, “I should’ve crawled better.” It simply flies, knowing the crawling was necessary for the wings and just like that, you must honour your journey, even in love.

There is no shame in who you used to be. There is no guilt in the love you gave. What…

You Don’t Have to Beg for Love: Healing Your Heart from the Inside Out

Far too many of us spend our energy chasing the bare minimum in relationships—romantic, familial or platonic. We shrink, second-guess our worth and find ourselves begging for time, affection or presence. But these are not signs of love—they are echoes of unhealed wounds. And though this pattern may not be your fault, it is now your responsibility to begin healing.

From a neuroscience perspective, our experiences of abandonment or emotional neglect deeply shape how our brain interprets safety and love. The amygdala, our emotional alarm system, becomes overactive when we perceive rejection. Over time, we begin to equate worth with struggle. But Louise Hay taught us a radical truth: we can rewire these beliefs…

Bless Yo’ Heart… and Yo’ Delusions”

Whew chile! Now you KNOW this one’s gonna ruffle a few feathers and stir a few chuckles too…

Imagine this: You’re minding your peaceful, unbothered business, glowing, growing, sipping your herbal tea and outta nowhere, a message pops up from your ex. And not just any message… but one of those messages: “Hey, I got someone better than you.”

Now see… in the past, that might’ve sent you spiralling. But not today, boo. Today, you're evolved. You're healed(ish). You're grounded in peace… or at least petty with purpose.

This post isn’t about revenge. It’s about reclaiming your power. Laughing through what used to hurt and remembering that closure doesn't come from them, it comes from within. But sometimes, it also comes in a sharp, three-word clapback that leaves no room for replies.

Madea’s No-Nonsense Advice. Girl, Dry Those Tears & Walk Like You Own the Place!

“Now, baby, I love you, but we ain’t doin’ no cryin’ over somebody who got the emotional intelligence of a toaster oven. Uh-uh! No ma’am! Wipe them tears and listen up.”

First of all, you won. You hear me? You WON! This fool thought they was playing chess while you was just living life and now they sittin’ there confused ‘cause you packed up your self-respect and walked smooth out that game. That’s what I call a mic drop moment!

Madea’s Relationship Advice. If a Man....... 

"Listen, baby, if a man got more faces than a deck of cards, you better RUN like you in a track meet!

If he always blaming somebody else for his problems but ain't never got no solutions, oh baby, that ain’t a man, that’s a BOY who need a babysitter, not a girlfriend!

If he act all charming in public but behind closed doors he talkin’ crazy? Uh-uh! That ain't love, that’s a magic trick, he an illusionist, baby! David Copperfield got nothin’ on him!

Don’t get me started on these fellas livin’ in fantasy worlds. If he got big dreams but a lazy reality, he gon’ have YOU workin’ while he talkin’ ‘bout “one day I’m a be a billionaire.” Oh really? Well, one day ain't TODAY!