There is a moment in every unhealthy relationship when the story stops being about two people and quietly becomes a crowd.
This is what psychologists call flying monkeys. Individuals who defend, enable or deliver messages on behalf of someone causing harm. What makes this dynamic so confusing is that it rarely begins with hostility.
There are moments in relationships when something feels “off,” long before we have the language to name it.
You find yourself shrinking a little more each day, questioning your worth, second-guessing your abilities and wondering how someone who claims to care about you can make you feel so small.
So many people lose themselves slowly, not in one big moment, but in the tiny ways they stop showing up for their own life when in a relationship. A missed workout. A postponed goal. A dream put “on hold.” A passion that fades in the background.
But here is a truth. You become stronger, healthier and more magnetic when you keep investing in YOU, even inside a relationship.
It does not require dramatic changes. Your healing starts with simple daily practices that rewire your brain, stabilise your nervous system and remind you who you are.
Let us talk about a few:
Empaths are wired to feel. Narcissists are wired to be felt.
This imbalance is not accidental, it is the exact magnetic dynamic that often draws empaths into toxic relationships with narcissists. One seeks to heal, understand and love deeply. The other seeks validation, control and power, often at any cost.
Empaths are often deep feelers, peacekeepers, natural listeners, over thinkers, emotional or sponges. These traits, when unguarded, become weapons in the hands of someone who knows how to manipulate kindness into compliance.
The narcissist is not in love with you, they are in love with the game.
A performance.
A transaction.
A trick.
“Alright baby, let me break this down nice and simple, ‘cause these narcissists out here will have you thinking you the one that’s crazy. Uh-uh. Not today. Here’s the tea:”
See, a narcissist will walk in your life smiling like they bringing you blessings from heaven, when really, they just brought chaos in a Gucci bag. They will flip the script so many times you will be dizzy, wondering if you forgot the plot. That is their game. They get power not by being right, but by making you question yourself. Next thing you know, you apologisin’ for something they did!
Do not let ‘em fool you, sugar. These folks ain’t got no cure, no fix-it kit and no “better version” waiting to come out if you just love them hard enough. Mm-mm. That’s like putting lipstick on a pig and wondering why it is still rolling…
You cannot walk into tomorrow’s promise dragging yesterday’s chains. Relationships, memories and even self-beliefs can become heavy luggage when their time has passed. Letting go is not about forgetting, it is about reclaiming the space in your heart and mind so you can walk freely toward what is meant for you.
Here are five empowering steps to help you let go and step into your freedom:
Let’s Tell The Truth Today.
Some people drain you. Others restore you and then there are the rare souls, those sacred friends who leave you feeling lighter, brighter and more you after every conversation.
That’s not luck. That’s not coincidence. That’s spiritual alignment. These are the people who reflect back the best in you, not because they try to fix you, but because they see you. The friends that make you feel more alive are not ordinary. They are divine appointments, walking reminders that you are not alone on this journey.
In a world full of noise, hustle and emotional survival, soulful friendship is healing. It’s spiritual medicine. It rewires your nervous system. It teaches your heart how to exhale. These aren’t just people they’re purpose partners. You laugh louder, breathe deeper and love yourself better because they are in your life. That’s not something to…
Many women unknowingly sabotage their happiness by settling for empty validation instead of real love. Research shows that low self-esteem in relationships often leads to insecurity, jealousy and poor partner choices because you end up believing you don’t deserve better.
When your worth relies on someone else, you stay silent, you shrink and you accept minimal affection as a treat. You might cling to unhealthy relationships hoping someone will “save” you and worse, stay in toxic dynamics that echo your own internal self-criticism.
This pattern creates a dangerous loop. A study shows women with low self-esteem doubt their partners’ love, downgrade positive moments and sense rejection, even when there’s none .
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