For generations, Black women have been taught to hold everything together, the relationship, the family, the community, even when no one is holding us.
They are taught to love deeply, endure quietly, forgive quickly, abandon themselves politely and shrink gently so no one feels threatened by their truth.
But emotional suppression is not strength. It is slow erosion.
So many people lose themselves slowly, not in one big moment, but in the tiny ways they stop showing up for their own life when in a relationship. A missed workout. A postponed goal. A dream put “on hold.” A passion that fades in the background.
But here is a truth. You become stronger, healthier and more magnetic when you keep investing in YOU, even inside a relationship.
It does not require dramatic changes. Your healing starts with simple daily practices that rewire your brain, stabilise your nervous system and remind you who you are.
Let us talk about a few:
“When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else.” — Iyanla Vanzant
Let me remind you of something deep and sacred today, your past, every broken piece of it, every tear you shed, every wrong turn you took in love was not in vain. It was the cocoon. It was the space where you were breaking, yes, but also being broken open… so you could fly.
You see, the butterfly does not look back at the caterpillar with regret. It does not say, “I should’ve crawled better.” It simply flies, knowing the crawling was necessary for the wings and just like that, you must honour your journey, even in love.
There is no shame in who you used to be. There is no guilt in the love you gave. What…
Proud Sista!
Proud Sista!
Proud Sista!
Proud Sista!
Proud Sista!
