Narcissistic Abuse Support Group

Madea’s Idiot’s Guide to Narcissists

Don’t Let ‘Em Play You, Baby

“Alright baby, let me break this down nice and simple, ‘cause these narcissists out here will have you thinking you the one that’s crazy. Uh-uh. Not today. Here’s the tea:”

See, a narcissist will walk in your life smiling like they bringing you blessings from heaven, when really they just brought chaos in a Gucci bag.

They will flip the script so many times you will be dizzy, wondering if you forgot the plot. That is their game. They get power not by being right, but by making you question yourself. Next thing you know, you apologisin’ for something they did!

Breaking the Cycle:

Understanding the Patterns of Narcissistic Abuse

There is a strange paradox when it comes to narcissistic abuse.

Survivors often describe it as both obvious and invisible at the same time. The lies, the manipulation, the twisting of words, they are all right there in plain sight, yet so skillfully hidden beneath charm, excuses or blame-shifting that victims often feel like they are the ones losing their grip on reality. Psychologists call this gaslighting, but anyone who has lived through it knows it as the relentless erosion of truth.

Research is increasingly confirming what survivors have always known. The damage goes beyond emotions. A study published in the Journal of Psychiatric Research (2019) found that survivors of narcissistic abuse showed significantly higher rates of anxiety, depression and PTSD-like symptoms.

The Martha Stewart Guide to Spotting a Narcissist

(Warning: Highly Toxic. Not Recommended for Daily Consumption)

Welcome, friends. Today, we are not baking bread or crafting seasonal décor. Instead, we are stepping into the darkly fascinating kitchen of human behaviour to whip up one of the most destructive recipes of all, the Narcissist. While the ingredients may look tempting on the shelf, the finished product is always bitter, hollow and ultimately harmful.

Ingredients

• 2 Cups Inflated Ego

Why Your Best Move Is the Door

Imagine a dinner table where every conversation eventually bends back toward one person. At first it feels like charm, witty anecdotes, the quick smile of someone who reads a room.

But over time, you realise the table itself has tilted. Your stories are props, your emotions are mirrors. This is the slow gravity of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), a dynamic that explains why so many experts caution against expecting a simple cure.

Psychology’s evidence base supports the warning. Decades of research, from the DSM-5 criteria to longitudinal studies at institutions like the University of British Columbia, show that NPD is a deeply ingrained pattern of grandiosity, entitlement and lack of empathy.

These traits form early in life and are remarkably resistant to change. Treatments such as schema therapy or certain psychodynamic approaches can help with specific symptoms, anxiety, depression, rage, but controlled studies…

🖤 The Con Artist Speaks from the Mouth, Not the Heart 🖤

The narcissist is not in love with you, they are in love with the game.

A performance.

A transaction.

A trick.

Signs of an Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship And How to Protect Yourself

Common Manipulation Behaviours to Watch Out For

Gaslighting

They do something hurtful, deny it, then accuse you of “being crazy.”

Gaslighting is a highly deceptive form of manipulation where the abuser commits hurtful actions, then flatly denies them, even asserting that you are “imagining things” or “overreacting.” Over time, this tactic chips away at your confidence, making you doubt your own memories, emotions and sense of reality. Victims often feel confused, anxious or like they’re going crazy.

Let’s Talk Love Bombing 1.0  

Love Bombing 1.0 is  a quick fire post on the confusing charm offensive that too many of us have mistaken for “true love.” Imagine this,  you meet someone and suddenly it’s fireworks, front-row seats to their affection, 24/7 texting, surprise flowers and an engagement ring by week three.

Sounds like a fairy tale? Think again. This is less Disney, more psychological chess match.

Love bombing is not about love, it’s about control wrapped in compliments. This early phase of narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationships is designed to get you hooked fast. We’re talking about intense flattery (“I’ve never met anyone like you”), extravagant gifts, rushed future talk and constant contact, all carefully crafted to make you feel chosen… before they slowly chip away at your sense of reality.

But here’s the kicker, this isn’t always done with malice. People with trauma histories, ADHD, or anxious attachment may…

The Fire You Don’t See Burns the Deepest!

We have been taught to fight what’s outside us—oppression, injustice, systemic exclusion!

But what happens when the battlefield is your own mind? When the enemy wears a smile, a title, or even a wedding ring? The image you see ain’t just a checklist—it’s a testimony of what happens when narcissistic abuse enters your life. This is not just about breakups. This is about breakdowns—emotional, spiritual, psychological.

C-PTSD, depression, anxiety, insomnia.

The Mask Never Slips – Until It Does

In the 1960s, a psychologist named Leon Festinger introduced the world to the theory of cognitive dissonance, the uncomfortable tension that arises when what we believe doesn't match what we do. Now imagine a life built entirely on contradiction. The narcissist's world is one of illusion—a constant act to preserve control, admiration and the fantasy of superiority. But there's a moment, often brief and terrifying to them, when the mask cracks.

That moment is what they fear more than anything: exposure!

Narcissists do not just lie to others; they lie to themselves. Neuroscience tells us…