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Overcoming Winter Blues: What Smart Women Do

Updated: Sep 22, 2022

Winter blues has arrived and you find that obstacle after obstacle keeps showing up.

You feel overwhelmed, with another headache coming on, not to mention feeling lethargic. You wonder what happened to your motivation, as you now find it hard to get up and take action, and worst, get out of bed and face the world.

This is your mind, body and spirit signaling its desire to tune into the “divine self”.

This is where you will need to pay attention to your body and begin to restructure your life.

Everything starts with a thought, a thought can either bring you up or down. Just like a seed, thoughts grow; some grow into beautiful fruits whilst others grow to become thorns that choke the substance and life out of anything in its path.

Take time to assess whether you are positive or negative minded. Be “the watcher” of your thoughts, it is important to monitor your thoughts as what you think about all day long is creating your current world.

If you expect bad things to happen, guess what—they will. The law of attraction states:

“You become what you think about all day long”.
Tuning Into Your Divine Self

Your spirit needs reviving and here are 31 ways to revive your spirit:-

  1. Listen to songs that uplift you eg. Ain’t No Stoppin Us Now! Put on songs that will get you up and dancing or better yet find DIVA tracks, the ones that empower you e.g.. I'm Every Woman by Chaka Khan, or Ain’t Nobody, put them on repeat to absorb the essence of each song.

  2. Go out and have a ball by attending a Soca Aerobics, Zumba, Soca Rhumba or Salsa dance/fitness class, do not worry if you have 2 left feet, it is just to get you out of the house and having fun whilst mixing with new people

  3. Have a night out with friends: let your hair go out dancing.

  4. Put your favourite records on and sing your heart out like a rock star complete with your hair brush in front of the mirror.

  5. Have a sleepover/pyjama party weekend and tell your friends to bring the food and drinks to share and reminisce over the good times and talk about your future plans, dreams and goals.

  6. Have a party and tell your friends to bring their male friends to even out the numbers.

  7. Try taking a few singing lessons (do not worry if you cannot hold too much of a note)

  8. Write down 10 things you have yet to get round to doing and pick one—and go do it

  9. Get one of your friends to arrange a “blind date” for you, just for the fun of it

  10. Offer to “house sit” and spend time in someone else’s house

  11. Go on an exotic holiday, never mind whether or not you have anyone to go with JUST DO IT!

  12. Buy Time Out and get out and see the beautiful sights around London

  13. Express yourself by attending drama classes to release the tension

  14. Offer to help someone else solve their issues

  15. Do some volunteering work

  16. Get someone to babysit if you have kids and disappear for a refreshing Spa

  17. Enrol on a personal empowerment course or workshop

  18. Get a Life Coach to help you gain clarity and motivation.

  19. Watch Comedy films—the ones that give you a belly-ache after watching due to excessive laughing eg. Something Has Gotta Give (Jack Nicholson & Diane Keaton or watch inspirational films with themes where the characters exceeded expectations of themselves

  20. Read autobiographical books for inspiration or watch the movie version

  21. Sign up for a aromatherapy treatment, relax and unwind as your therapist works on the knots in your neck and shoulders

  22. Do some DIY painting and decorating – to change the look of the room, or simply rearrange the furniture, you will feel much better because you have done it.

  23. Start juicing fruits and vegetables and drink them daily

  24. Exercise daily to release tension

  25. Read inspirational books/the Bible, particularly the book of Proverbs for life-mastery

  26. Write down your goals and work on mapping out the entire steps to achieving your goal

  27. Attend networking events to meet an eclectic mix of people

  28. Read and write affirmations, say them out loud until you truly believe what you are saying.

  29. Practise visualisations: focusing on your heart’s desires, bringing them into existence

  30. Start a scrapbook putting cuttings and pictures that inspire you and reveal your desires

  31. Abstain from meat, wheat and dairy for as long as you can stand

The secret to overcoming Winter Blues is to take action, by selecting activities that will jump-start your mind, body and soul and bring you back to self.

Know that despite the winter, you can still experience more joy than you can stand, but in order to achieve this you must be willing to change things up a little.

Change your thoughts and you change your world.

Begin today, to take great care of yourself, nobody can do it better so you best set about making yourself happy as Winter is a long way from ending.

May you be happy both on the inside and outside, may you never ever look to the weather to determine your mood.

Take advantage of the arsenal of options you now have available to you to ward off the Winter Blues and may you reconnect with the Fabulous, Wonderful, Special, One-of-a-kind, Extraordinary, Beautiful, Bootilicious, God’s gift to the World divine spirit that you are!

Take great care of you always!


About the Author of this article ...

Sandra Jarvis is an effervescent and dynamic Trainer/Life Coach, Events Organizer, and author of “90 Days of Motivational Pep Talks for Women in Search of Happiness” and "40 Empowering Pep Talks for Busy Mums: Motivational 'Pick Me Up' messages to Kick-start Your Day!"

Having experienced post-natal depression, sleep deprivation, full blown depression, domestic abuse, unemployment, social isolation after moving from Harlesden and losing both her parents within 2 years of each other, Sandra understands the need for women to have tools and strategies to cope with the increasing demands of life especially when your world has been turned upside down and you are clueless on how to fix it and turn things around. As a result of her life experiences, she has created the Emancipate! A Woman's Journey of Self-discovery to show women how to create a life "tailor-made for their own unique needs and expectations. She currently runs monthly Emancipate! A Journey of Self Discovery, Personal Empowerment Workshops for Women, alongside her coaching practice.

She also runs WISH Club for Mums, a monthly motivational club for Mums in Ealing, West London and plans to expand WISH Clubs for Mums across London. She is available to give motivational talks to women executives within corporate organisations and mums within the school environment.

For more information please call 020 3620 7343 or 07538 653247 also via email:

Sandra is scheduled to give a talk on 10 November 2012 @ the Learning to Let Go After Abuse Seminar organised by Malakh Zebulun, author of "No More Secrets", an empowering book filled with tools and strategies to deal with abuse issues. please follow the link below to book your tickets.

Emancipate! A Woman's Journey of Self-Discovery Workshop is on Saturday 17 November 2012 for more details please follow the link below:-


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