The music is loud. The lights are flashing. Someone has just brushed past me for the third time. Not only that, out of nowhere, my internal thermostat has declared an emergency.
Hot flush. Activated.
Ten years ago, this was carefree fun. Now the bass feels amplified. The crowd feels closer. The air feels thicker. It is not just the club, it is my nervous system responding differently.
If you remember the smell of a Cabbage Patch Doll’s head… chances are you are not in your twenties anymore.
That is not a crisis. It is a transition.
Perimenopause often sneaks up quietly. It starts with subtle shifts. Sleep changes, mood fluctuations, brain fog, irregular cycles, long before the word “menopause” even feels relevant.
There is a woman in a boardroom who suddenly cannot retrieve a word she has used for twenty years.
She pauses. The silence stretches half a second longer than she would like.
No one else notices. She does.
Later that evening, she lies awake at 3:17 a.m., replaying the moment. She thinks it is stress. She thinks it is ageing. She wonders if she is losing her edge.What she does not yet know is that her brain is recalibrating.
For years, menopause has been reduced to two headline symptoms. Hot flushes and mood swings. Yet clinical research tells a far more complex story. In the United Kingdom alone, over 13 million women are peri- or post-menopausal.
Globally, nearly 85 percent of women experience symptoms that affect daily life, work performance, sleep, relationships, cognition and physical health.
Still, many women are left wondering “Is this really menopause… or is something wrong with me?”
Ladies, this Valentine’s Day, we are sending love to all the incredible women riding the peri/menopause rollercoaster, a ride none of us queued up for, but here we are, gripping the safety bar, sweating through our 'favourite' blouse and wondering why our emotions are doing parkour.
Whether you are single, married, a corporate powerhouse, a founder or a carer, here is your Valentine’s card from the universe.
There are menopause symptoms women mention openly. Hot flushes, night sweats, mood shifts and the sudden sense that your body has changed its rules without warning.
Then there is the symptom that many women carry quietly, often for years, because it feels too intimate to name and too awkward to raise in a ten-minute appointment. Vaginal dryness.
In SistaTalk Menopause, we say the quiet parts out loud, not for shock value, but because silence has a cost. Vaginal dryness is not a minor inconvenience.
For many women, the changes do not arrive like a dramatic interruption. They arrive quietly. Subtly. Almost politely.
You are still functioning, still performing, still showing up. Yet something feels off. Not wrong enough to alarm anyone else. Just different enough that you notice.
This is how perimenopause often begins.
Many women carry symptoms they have learned to minimise. Brain fog. Exhaustion. Anxiety. Sleep disruption. Emotional flatness. Health research is clear. Prolonged exposure to stress hormones like cortisol affects memory, immunity, cardiovascular health and emotional regulation. These are not imagined experiences, they are biological responses.
During transitions such as perimenopause and menopause, this impact intensifies. When stress has been normalised for years, symptoms are often misattributed to ageing, weakness or lack of resilience.
The truth is simpler and harder. The body is signalling that survival mode has gone on too long.
Menopause does not arrive as a clean break from menstruation. It arrives carrying the full history of every cycle you have ever had.
Heavy periods, painful cramps, fibroids, anaemia, hormonal imbalance, medical dismissal, these do not disappear at menopause. They shape how the brain, uterus, immune system and nervous system respond to the transition. For many women, especially Black women, menopause is not relief. It is the point where years of unmanaged gynaecological stress finally surface.
If menopause has made you question your memory, your mood or your confidence, the problem is not you, it is that no one explained what was happening inside your brain.
For many women, perimenopause does not arrive quietly. It announces itself through forgotten words, emotional surges, disrupted sleep and a creeping fear “Why does my brain not feel like mine anymore?”
You are not imagining it.
The 3pm crash.
The brain fog.
During perimenopause and menopause, many women experience changes they were never fully prepared for. Lower sexual desire, vaginal dryness, difficulty with arousal and, for some, painful intercourse.
These shifts are driven primarily by declining estrogen and testosterone, but the emotional impact often runs deeper than the biology.
Hormone therapy can help, but research consistently shows its effects on sexual function are modest. Pleasure, intimacy and desire are shaped not only by hormones, but by stress, relationship dynamics, cultural expectations and emotional wellbeing. So, when the pandemic hit, those layers became even more complicated.
Most of us have been told that rest equals sleep. But during peri-, full- and post-menopause, your body, mind and soul are asking for something deeper. Rest that restores, not just rest that helps you “keep going.”
Let us discover how to shift from survival mode to strategic self-restoration:
Hormones and brain chemistry are inseparable. As women enter perimenopause and menopause, fluctuating oestrogen and progesterone levels don’t just change the body, they recalibrate the brain. Understanding Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin and Endorphins for emotional balance becomes very important.
These hormonal shifts alter the balance of key neuro chemicals that regulate mood, motivation, focus and connection. That’s why you might feel less like yourself, not just physically, but emotionally and cognitively too.
Let us break down what happens to the brain’s “happy chemicals” during this stage and how women across cultures can rebuild emotional balance from the inside out.
Did you know that millions of women are living with perimenopause without realising it?
Research shows that more than half of women cannot identify the early signs of hormonal transition and this lack of awareness has far-reaching effects, from workplace performance to relationships and mental health.
In professional settings, symptoms such as insomnia, brain fog and mood swings can quietly erode confidence and focus, often mistaken for burnout or stress.
At home, fatigue and hormonal shifts can strain emotional connection and intimacy, while the mental health impact, including anxiety, depression and low motivation, often goes unseen or dismissed.
This month, we pause not to whisper about menopause, but to celebrate it. Too often, society frames menopause as an ending, a slowing down, a fading away. But in truth, it is a beginning. It is a season where wisdom ripens, self-awareness deepens and women step into a power unshaken by old expectations.
Menopause is not just about hot flashes or hormone shifts, it is about transformation. It is the body’s way of saying “you have carried enough for others. Now is the time to carry yourself with pride.”
In this group, we honour every stage of the journey:
The courage it takes to embrace change
For decades, menopause has been framed as an ending, a biological shutdown, a loss of youth or worse, a punchline. Our culture has had little to say about it beyond whispers and warnings.
But what if we imagined menopause differently? What if it marked the beginning of a new chapter, one that liberates us from biological and societal expectations and invites us to redefine ourselves on our own terms?
Menopause is not just a medical milestone. It is a deeply personal transformation, physical, emotional and cultural. For many women, hot flushes are one of the most visible and disruptive symptoms. But what happens after menopause? Do they ever stop and is the experience the same for everyone?
Menopause is more than a life stage, it is a global turning point that reshapes health, identity, and careers.
Hosted by Sonia Brown MBE and the National Black Women’s Network (NBWN) join us for an unforgettable evening with award-winning menopause expert Lauren Chiren, Founder and CEO of Women of a Certain Stage™ From guiding the UK government’s menopause policy to consulting with FTSE 100 leaders and Fortune 500 boards, Lauren brings a depth of experience that crosses borders and cultures. She is a leading international menopause strategist known for her collaborations across cultures and continents.
🗓 Wednesday 24 September 2025
When Hollywood powerhouse Queen Latifah speaks, people listen. That is why her new role as the inaugural spokeswoman for “WeightWatchers for Menopause” feels like such a natural and important fit.
Latifah has been candid about her own journey through perimenopause, admitting that even she was surprised by how subtle (and sometimes confusing) the changes could be.
Hot flashes, disrupted sleep, shifting moods and stubborn weight gain are not always easy to name, let alone manage. By sharing her experience, she is helping to shatter the silence and stigma that too often surround this life stage.
“Menopause has been a new journey for me.” explained Latifah “One that is changed how I see and care for my body. It has shown me how important it is for women to have support that truly understands this stage of life. That is why I’m proud…
Perimenopause is not the end of anything it is the start of a deeper, wiser chapter. Those mood swings, night sweats and unexpected changes aren’t weaknesses; they’re signals that your body is transitioning into a new rhythm. Instead of bracing against it, lean in.
When you understand the science and honour your own experience, you can lead your life, career and business with clarity and authourity.
If you have ever felt a hot flash rise like a summer sun or noticed your mood dip with the long winter nights, you are not imagining things and you are not alone.
Our bodies are tuned to the rhythm of nature and that ongoing dance between sunlight, temperature and hormones can make menopause feel like a moving target. For Black, Asian and other minority women, that rhythm is even more complex and revealing.
Here is the science in plain language.
Hosted by Sonia Brown MBE on behalf of the NBWN, this webinar is more than an educational opportunity. It is an invitation to be part of a global shift. One that transforms menopause from a hidden struggle into a celebrated passage of power, purpose and possibility.
We all know menopause impacts every culture differently and understanding those nuances is key to meaningful support.
That’s why we’re thrilled to welcome Lauren Chiren, a multi-award-winning trainer and global menopause expert whose coaching and training programmes have reached women and workplaces in Africa, Singapore, Australia, Europe and beyond.
Lauren’s track record is not just international, it’s deeply cross-cultural. Her network of trained coaches spans continents, bringing insights from diverse traditions and workplace realities.
For far too many women especially African, Black and South Asian women menopause remains shrouded in silence. Families don’t talk about it, workplaces don’t prepare for it, health systems often overlook it.
The result is that millions of women enter perimenopause and menopause without the support, information or care they both need and deserve, creating compound consequences for their health, careers and communities.
Dr. (h.c.) Marva Williams is a menopause counsellor, wellness educator and founder of Shhh... Menopause Wellness.
Alongside Donna Spence and Andrea Malcolm, she is inviting you to take part in an urgent and long-overdue survey on menopause. especially for women of colour.
In 2019, undiagnosed peri-menopausal symptoms nearly cost her life. Her experience is far from unique as many women of colour have been unheard, misdiagnosed and left to suffer in silence.
This survey is your chance to share your truth about symptoms, stigma, support (or lack of it) and how menopause has affected your health, career and confidence. The results will be presented at a major event in October to push for inclusive workplace policies, better healthcare, and stronger community support.
For those who were able to join us at the last Menopause, Mindset & Me webinar on July 29th, we hope you found the session with Emma Lady both empowering and informative. Her insights into the lived experiences of Black women navigating menopause offered not only clarity but also practical tools to help us move forward with confidence and self-compassion.
We understand that not everyone could attend. We understand, life gets busy and sometimes things come up. But we don’t want you to miss out. Emma has kindly shared the slides from the session, so you can still benefit from the key takeaways and resources.
You will find them below, ready for you to download and reflect on in your own time.
Supporting someone through menopause isn’t just about knowing the symptoms it is about understanding the full experience. The sleepless nights, brain fog, mood shifts and physical changes aren’t isolated events. They’re deeply connected, often showing up in ways that affect confidence, relationships, work and wellbeing all at once.
This is why menopause support must be grounded in empathy, knowledge and the courage to have sensitive conversations. Conversations that don’t assume, judge or dismiss but instead hold space with care. It is about knowing when to listen, when to offer practical tools and when to guide someone toward professional help.
For those supporting employees, clients or community members, having clear frameworks and practical strategies isn’t optional, it is transformational. You shift from feeling unsure or powerless to being an active support, someone who can advocate for adjustments, offer immediate help and build a culture where…
Real menopause support isn’t a workshop you tick off or a one-off conversation you squeeze into a team meeting. It’s a practice lived, learned and led with intention. For too long, menopause has been boxed into awkward side chats, vague wellness webinars or reduced to a “hot flash and move on” narrative. But those of us living it navigating the shifts in our bodies, minds and spirits know better.
True support meets women where they are, with respect, listening and a readiness to do, not just talk. It looks like embedding empathy into everyday interactions. It shows up in policies, partnerships, coaching, community spaces and yes, in the brave choice to open real conversations, even when it's uncomfortable. When done with care, conversations don’t cross lines, they build bridges.
Let’s be clear, raising awareness is the start, not the solution. Actionable skills like how…
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